First Look or No First Look?
A Photographer’s Honest Take
The Big Question :
If you have spent any time planning your wedding, chances are you have asked yourself: “Should we do a first look?” It is one of the biggest debates most couples face while planning their timeline.
As a wedding photographer, I have seen both sides—couples who can’t wait to see each other privately before their ceremony, and couples who want that big dramatic moment walking down the aisle. The truth? There is no “right” or wrong” answer—it’s all about what feels best for you.
But to help you make the choice, I am breaking down the pros and cons of both!!
What Is a First Look?
A first look is when the couple sees each other before the ceremony in a private moment (usually with just your photographer present). Instead of waiting until you walk down the aisle, you carve out a special time earlier in the day to share that emotional moment.
Reasons Couples LOVE Doing a First Look
You get more time together. Wedding days fly by so fast—doing a first look gives you extra one-on-one time before the whirlwind begins.
It helps calm the nerves. If you are the type who gets anxious, seeing your partner early can ease that stress and let you relax!
You get more photos. First looks usually mean extra time for couples portraits, wedding party photos, and even family shots before the ceremony. (Translation: more time to enjoy cocktail hour later!)
It’s intimate. Instead of sharing that first look with 150 guests, it’s just you two—raw, emotional, and real.
Reasons Couples SKIP the First Look
You love tradition. For some, walking down the aisle is THE moment they’ve dreamed about forever—and nothing else compares.
You want that big “wow” factor. If the thought of seeing your partner for the first time surrounded by your people makes your heart race—in the best way—that’s your moment.
You don’t want to start the day early. First looks typically shift your timeline forward (since photos happen pre-ceremony). If you want a slower, relaxed morning, skipping it might be the move.
A Photographers Honest Take
Here is the truth: both options can be magical.
I have photographer couples who cried, laughed, and hugged so hard during their first link that it set the tone for their entire day.
I have also photographed couples who burst into tears when they locked eyes walking down the aisle—moments that made everyone in the room cry too.
The key is choosing to what feels right for your personalities, your priorities, and your wedding day vibe.
Hybrid Options You Might Not Know About
Not sure either option is totally “you”?
First Touch - Holding hands around a corner without seeing each other, sharing a prayer, or reading private vows.
Private Vow Exchange - Reading vows in private before the ceremony, even if you skip a first look.
First Look with Dad/Mom/Bridesmaids/Groomsmen - Sweet alternatives that add special moments without seeing your partner.
Final Thoughts
SO should you do.a first look? Here is my honest advice: go with what makes your heart feel the happiest.
If you are craving intimacy, calm nerves, and more photos—do a first look.
If you want tradition, drama, and that aisle moment—skip it.
Either way, your day will be incredible. Because it’s not about the first time you see each other, it’s about the life you are starting together!
Still not sure which route is right for you? As a wedding photographer, I have walked couples through every timeline imaginable, and I would LOVE to help you figure out what feels best for your day! Fill out the contact form to ask for help on timeline and first look questions!